communication

The Power of Vulnerability

Brene Brown

If every couple I mediated with for divorce or post-divorce modifications understood these principles, healing would begin to change the dynamic between them and flow through to their children and communities.  Mediation is often the format where such conversations begin.  Call Judy Larkins to discuss your situation.  Whether you are trying to make agreements to repair your marriage, needing to begin the process to divorce in a respectful manner, or addressing parenting or changes in child support after a divorce decree has b

The Seven Deadly Sins

7 deadly sins

One of my favorite professors at University of Denver, Bob Melvin, gave his conflict theory students an excellent reading list.  I immediately purchased all of his recommendations, but only recently began to read one of them:  Henry Fairlie’s The Seven Deadly Sins Today.  My interest was piqued by my son who, over dinner, rattled off all seven without a blink.  I was unfamiliar with the list.  I went home and immediately plunged in to the book.  Here is a little trivia:  Can you name the seven deadly sins? 

Stonewalling

Stone wall eliminates communication

Stonewalling: To refuse to cooperate, especially in supplying information.  It is employed by those who are indifferent and who wish to punish.  When passion exists (a very positive or very negative emotion), stonewalling is impossible.  The one who endures stonewalling is often clueless about what the conflict is about.  It is the epitome of an unfair fighting strategy.  One is left to fill in the blanks with the most extreme, even irrational conclusions. 

Respect & Pity

Self Respect

Conflict makes us chose a response. Our choices begin at a very young age, and behaviors take on many forms in interpersonal relationships: patterns emerge and develop over time; with a lifelong curriculum involving experience and discipline (or lack of discipline) that results in our core character. The earliest lessons often begin at the most tender ages of early childhood as we perceive low or high levels of personal power.